Why The “Stop Making Excuses” Slogans Annoy Me (And How To Improve Your Life Instead)


Excuses

 

If it’s important to you, you’ll find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse.”

Excuses are for people who don’t want it bad enough.”

It’s not about having time, it’s about making time.”

 

This time of year, with our New Year’s Resolutions still fresh in our memories, there’s no escaping these kind of motivational quotes or stories of transformation.

Wellness websites, blogs about lifestyle design and fitspiration on Instagram are all telling us there are no excuses to live the life you want or to make a healthy lifestyle a priority. No matter how well intended – and true to a certain point – these are empty words for anyone living with real, severe problems that won’t go away any time soon.

The “stop making excuses” slogans seem to insinuate that we’re unmotivated, lazy people who just need to get off our butts to make our desires happen instead of going through life as zombies. But motivation and a strong will to succeed are not always enough. In spite of what some people may say, there are valid reasons why someone hasn’t been able to achieve their dreams yet.

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Hope in Times of Chronic Illness

Hope in Times of Chronic Illness

 

“There is no medicine like hope, no incentive so great, no tonic so powerful as the expectation of tomorrow.”

– Orison S. Marden

 

Someone once told me it’s better not to have hope, because it will only lead to disappointment.

I couldn’t disagree more. Hope has shaped my life time and time again.

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14 Ideas for a Comforting Care Package for a Sick Loved One (+ A Giveaway!)

Ideas for Care Package Giveaway

 

There’s nothing more uplifting than knowing someone is thinking of you when you’re terribly ill. All you want is a little comforting while you’re dealing with the physical pain and emotional turmoil of sickness.

That’s why sending a get-well care package to a sick loved one is a wonderful way to show you care and to wish them a speedy recovery.

And yet you might be stumped for inspiration on what to put in your gift basket. Of course that depends on your friend’s illness, circumstances and preferences in life, but packing both practical items to deal with the daily discomforts and entertaining goodies that offer an escape from the mind-numbing boredom will definitely brighten their day!

Have a look at these 14 ideas for creating a comforting care package for sick loved ones:

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Reframing Stress: 7 Psychological Tricks to Change How Stress Affects Your Health

Reframing Stress | 7 Psychological Tricks to Change How Stress Affects Your Health
Photo by Despina Design

 

 

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing:

the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” 

Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

 

Your mother warned you there’d be days like these. The minutes are ticking away until your big meeting starts, and here you are, stuck in traffic – again. Cars are moving at a snail’s pace, but the thoughts keep racing through your mind. “Hmm, did I lock the front door..? Ooh, I shouldn’t forget to pick up the dry-cleaning on my way home tonight. And we really must find the time to visit aunt Jessie in the hospital this weekend. Maybe after we’ve finished painting the nursery..? Argh, move already, I’m running late!”

You can feel the tension build up in your body. And the day has only just begun.

 

Life is a continuous string of events, from everyday challenges and important milestones to defining moments and daily disruptions. Although there are certain situations that everyone finds upsetting and taxing – losing a loved one, relationship troubles, unemployment or living with chronic illness – whether or not you get stressed following a negative event also depends on how you perceive that situation.

Stress is triggered by external life events and small daily hassles. When you experience more frequent and severe stressors in life, you have an increased risk of developing serious health problems like heart disease, obesity, digestive problems or anxiety. But this relation doesn’t explain why plenty of people thrive in high-pressure jobs or demanding circumstances. Why do some individuals get sick and depressed when something stressful happens while others do not?

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A Love Letter to the Supporters of Chronically Ill Warriors Everywhere

Love Letter  

It’s a sad fact that in times of need you find out who your true friends are. Not everyone has the courage, strength and emotional intelligence to deal with difficult situations. Others want to help out, but they simply don’t know what to say or do.

The irony is that you don’t need grand gestures or eloquent speeches to show your love and compassion – they’re found in the tiny, wordless gestures of support and understanding.

When you’re diagnosed with a chronic or life-threatening illness, the dynamics of your relationships inevitably change. Sometimes the person you want to turn to the most, suddenly stops calling you or slowly vanishes from your life when you’re no longer able to do fun things together. But other people might surprise you: the colleague who keeps checking in how you’re doing, the neighbour who offers to do your grocery shopping or drive you to the hospital.

Many articles have been written about the misconceptions and insensitive comments that sick people have to deal with. Although it’s important to address the constant frustrations and loneliness of chronically ill patients, today I want to celebrate all the lovely individuals who do get it – who understand what you’re going through, who stick around through it all, who never let you down. This is a gratitude note to the support squads of “spoonies” everywhere – and my friends and family in particular. 

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