How to Talk to Your Boss about Your Mental Health

  • By Jennifer Mulder
  • 10 September 2020
  • 3 minute read
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This article is written by Sara Anderson. 

According to the Centre for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), mental health conditions are amongst the most troublesome health distresses in the United States, and 63% are part of the workforce. Mental health problems impact many workers, a fact that is usually ignored because the disorders can be hidden at the work place. Unfortunately, the stigma involved in having a psychiatric disorder in workers may make them hesitant to seek treatment, especially in the current economic statuses.

It is imperative to seek help whenever you feel like your mental health is compromised. But how do you start? How will you deal with the discussion when mental health is not recognized as part of a healthy office principle?

Supervisors usually think that no one in their organization is affected by mental health. Still, the truth is that in the average workplace, three to four sick days are usually taken by people who feel that their mind, rather than their body is a little bit under the weather.

Mental health discussions at the workplace are now becoming a custom. However, there are some ways you should approach the subject of mental health with your boss.

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Approach it early

Knowing where you are with your mental health is crucial. The point at which you will reveal your mental health issues to your boss will depend on your condition, signs, ease levels, and the dynamics and culture of the workplace. Usually, mental health problems are very delicate topics, and the disclosure is very personal. It can be very uncomfortable making a massive statement about your mental health issues, especially if you are doing okay, and your work isn’t suffering.

It’s best if you speak to your boss when your mental health begins to impact your work and ability. Don’t wait until you hit a level of anxiety or depression. Remember that chronic stress symptoms can dramatically increase your likelihood of anxiety or depression.

The earlier you talk to your boss about your mental health, the better. If you’re going to ask for some days off because of some emergency or personal problem, know that you’ll be asked about the nature of the problem. Therefore, at some point, you will have to disclose more details about your condition to your boss, not everyone.

Maintain your privacy

It doesn’t matter if you are having a conversation with your boss; reveal as much as you feel you are comfortable with. You don’t necessarily have to disclose all about your family’s history with a mental health issue, neither do you need to explain all your episodes of panic attacks.

For instance, if you have ADHD and are not comfortable going into the details with your boss, just say that you are having trouble with concentration impacting your capacity to work. Alternatively, you can disclose that you have a medical condition without really mentioning your diagnosis by the name.

Know your rights

Knowing your rights under the law enables you to be more mindful of a discussion with your boss. According to the Americans with Disability Act (ADA), you have a right to reasonable accommodations for a disability. Depending on your mental health issue’s nature, you may need accommodations to help you stay organized, work competently and maintain strengths and concentration during the day.

The ADA also prohibits any judgment against people with disabilities in workplaces. You have rights. Therefore, you should not be worried about what your boss will say about your condition. The law allows people to be accommodated to a reasonable degree.

Instead of just assuming some days off, consider discussing with your boss about flexible hours that aren’t determined in advance but whenever you might need it.

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Bring in your doctor or therapist if needed

Sometimes, it can be hard to speak about what you are going through. In this case, you should let a professional speak for you. If you are having treatment at a facility, the professional will explain to your boss how long the program will take and why you need time from work.

Be open to their suggestion

Your boss has a responsibility to make reasonable adjustments for you. For instance, changes to a job that can allow you to do your responsibilities more successfully. However, as much as you are entitled to reasonable accommodation, it is up to your boss to determine what ‘reasonable’ means. Your boss might not directly agree to every request that you have, so be open to working together to get innovative solutions that will benefit the two of you.

If you don’t have a good relationship with your boss and noted that they wouldn’t understand your situation, involve Human Resources. The good thing about involving the HR is that they cannot share the reason behind your medical accommodations if you don’t want them to.

Rehearse your conversation

Discussing your mental health with your boss can be a difficult thing. Just one mistake, and your boss will come out from your discussion with little understanding of what you need and your treatment’s purpose. If possible, design out a script of what you want to say.

Practicing your conversation can play a significant role in reducing anxiety. Consider practicing the conversation with a friend or a colleague. Alternatively, you can practice the conversation in front of a mirror. This will help you see what your body language looks like and how it will match your words.

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The Importance of Discussing your Mental Health with your Boss

Being honest about your mental health enables you to create an open and honest work background. You might be surprised by how you can get relieved just by disclosing what you are going through to your boss.

As hard as it might feel to have a conversation with your boss, things can only get better. Plus, you might be surprised about how receptive your boss can be. Remember that your boss cannot offer you support if they don’t know you need it.

By choosing to have a conversation with your boss, you will be able to make changes that will help you. Take good care of yourself outside the workplace, too. Exercise and have a balanced diet. Don’t be embarrassed about your mental health issues, and more so, don’t let it prevent you from being happy and healthy at your workplace.

As long as you know your rights, talking to your boss will be easy. Don’t shy away from bringing in a therapist if needed; they can help make the discussion more productive and positive. Visit us at today for the comprehensive treatment of any mental health issue.

Author Bio: Sara Anderson is the head of content for the EzCare clinic, a medical clinic that provides world-class health care services. She has been associated with the health care industry for 10+ years and specializes in health care and medical content.

Thank you for including this post in your weekly round-up Claire! And for supporting other health bloggers by sharing their work.

Great post and information - I have shared a link on my regular feature Monday Magic – Inspiring Blogs for You! Claire (PainPalsBlog) x

Thank you soo much may God bless you in many ways ☺

I'm sorry, the blog post is a few years old so the giveaway has been closed for a while now. Perhaps you can use some of the tips above to create a care package: puzzles or magazine, (free) samples of body care products if your dad is still in the hospital, a gift card for iTunes? I also like the Gifts in A Tin from DIYMommy: (Scroll down for an overview) or an edible gift like the five bean soup IF he's medically allowed to eat that of course!: Hope your father feels better soon!

I was going to leave a comment for the give away... For my dad cuz he had his gull bladder taken out a fue hrs ago but congrats... Is there a cheep way i can make something for him?

Being careful with what you eat might be a good idea if you're feeling sick or have stomach aches. Luckily, there are still plenty of things listed you can do to entertain yourself :-) Feel better soon!

When I am I'll myum doesn't let me eat so some wouldn't work 😢🍕

Hi Darci, thank you for your message. Unfortunately the guide is not available yet as a hardcover and a paperback. If that changes in the near future, I will let you know. Warm regards, Jennifer

I would like to buy this book in hard cover or paperback instead of e-book for a friend

thats #6

Super useful habits Nat! I also need to mentally unwind before bedtime or I'll be laying awake all night with thoughts racing through my mind.

A few things that help me ( I suffer from insomnia) is by not taking my phone to bed with me, i finish checking emails, social media etc in the living room and go to bed to switch off. Something else I do is turn on my essential oils diffuser an hour before bed so the room is scent with a relaxing mist of essential oils such as lavender, or vetiver which is like a sedative and incredible for helping me unwind. Another thing that work well when i can't switch my brain off is to write a quick list of everything i think i need to be dealing with now and highlighting only the ones that need to be taken care of the next day. Helps me not to feel so overwhelmed and in turn helps me fall asleep easier.

I'm touched by your kind words Darla, thank you. It's perfectly normal that you're resentful and feel sorry for yourself. You've had a lot to deal with. Not just experiencing horrible symptoms on a daily basis, but also having to adjust the plans you had for your future and your sense of identity. To me, positivity in the face of adversity is not about having an irrealistic rose-colored view of life. But I do believe that trying to find the good in little things each day can help make the bad ones more bearable. It's a challenge, but your insightful comment tells me that you're up for it ;-) Let me know if there's anything I can do to help. Good luck, be gentle with yourself and take care Darla!

Dr.Jen the Zen one, first off you rock! Since being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis 4 years ago and 2 years ago double pneumonia that left me with heart failure with 28% left undamaged it has seriously limited my mobility energy patience and unfortunately my positive attitude. 52 years on this planet, I lived a happy-go-lucky , look on the bright side, things will be better tomorrow, or crack a silly joke and get over it type of life. Now for the first time in my life I find myself having to work at being positive. Anger and resentment and even the dreaded " poor little me" mindset is trying to set up permanent residence. And tonight I find your blog and it gives me hope I just want to say "Thank you" Darla

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